According to centeruniverse's rec I'm reading The Ethical Slut at the moment. And I have to say that I like it. It took me some time to get the authors, but now it's really interesting.
Anyways, on page 105 there is a chart that I copied for you. The part is described in the book like:
We have also included [...] and inventory of sexual activities. Try filling it out and see what you learn about yourself. You can make copies to share with your friends as an ice-breaker for a discussion group or for negotiating sexual encounter. We made the boxes as big as possible so you can make comments about how you feel, which tends to be more informative than simple yes or no.
Offered possible responses are:
Don't get me wrong, I don't want you to fill it out and post it here or something, I just wanted to offer you the opportunity to learn something about yourself and/ or your partner.
Forgive me if there are any typos... And if you want me to send you the Word Document, just comment with e-mail addy :-)